But – negates any words that are stated before it

If – presupposes that you may not

Would have – past tense that draws attention to things that didn’t actually happen.

Should have – past tense that draws attention to things that didn’t actually happen (implies guilt)

Could have – past tense that draws attention to things that didn’t actually happen, but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen

Try – presupposes failure.

Might – It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener

Can’t / Don’t – These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This mistake parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

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