Unlike regular mirroring, in behavioral mirroring, you match behaviors that have symbolic meaning. They are mostly subconscious. In fact, the more subconscious they are, the better they are to mirror. After all, no one can think you’re imitating him or her if you are imitating something they don’t know they’re doing, can they? But […]
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Behavior Appreciation
Improve your performance and self care by developing a positive approach to personal development. This pattern uses anchors to find the positive intention (the underlying positive outcome-seeking pattern) underlying a negative behavior. For example, if you burst into tears at times, you have better options than feeling inferior. Instead, this positive approach might help you […]
Finding Positive Intentions
Transform self sabotage into success. By discovering the positive intent behind a negative behavior or attitude, you can release tremendous energy and positive commitment. Other NLP patterns, such as The Parts Negotiation pattern as well as The Behavior Appreciation pattern, depend on this insight In his outstanding book Sleight Of Mouth: The Magic Of Conversational […]
Pacing and Matching
Pacing and matching are important to modeling and rapport-building. This pattern helps you pace their model of the world. This is a profound form of pacing. When you practice this pattern, you will sharpen your awareness of people’s subconscious communications. When you pace a person’s model of the world, you can better understand their perspective and […]
Thee & E. P. Formation Pattern
How will you know when you have achieved your desired outcome? Be very specific about this. With these indications or clues (we call them “evidence”) in mind, you will be able to monitor your progress. Develop a procedure to ensure that you will detect the evidence as well as counter-evidence. We’ll call this an “evidence […]
Failure Into Feedback
Change an attitude or belief into one that supports your excellence and success. Turn “failure” into valuable feedback and into a winning state that includes curiosity and motivation. Imagine feeling positive and motivated after the ninety-ninth failure. As with Edison and his many “failures” on the way to the light bulb, you are on your […]
Meta-programs
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) uses the term ‘meta-programs’ specifically to indicate general, pervasive and usually habitual patterns used by an individual across a wide range of situations. Examples of NLP meta-programs include the preference for overview or detail, the preference for where to place one’s attention during conversation, habitual linguistic patterns and body language, and so […]
Preferred representational system
Originally NLP taught that most people had an internal preferred representational system (PRS) and preferred to process information primarily in one sensory modality. The practitioner could ascertain this from external cues such as the direction of eye movements, posture, breathing, voice tone and the use of sensory-based predicates. If a person repeatedly used predicates such […]
Sleight of Mouth Patterns
Redefine 1. What other meaning could the equation have? 2. A # B, A = C, and that’s D Consequence What will happen to them if they continue to think this way? Intention 1. Why are they saying this? 2. What is the secondary gain? 3. What are they trying to get? […]
Cartesian Questions
Cartesian Questions is a method for defining and loosening boundaries by using questions derived from Cartesian Logic. The purpose of Cartesian questions is not only to notice what answers the client gives you, it is also to begin to loosen up their model of the world as they begin to examine the limits of their […]