Notice how we have gone beyond physical mirroring to include things of symbolic value. This is symbolic mirroring, and the symbolic behavior is often subconscious behavior. And we have seen that you can combine symbolic and physical mirroring. This combination of symbolic and physical mirroring is very powerful. For practice in looking for subconscious symbols, […]
Monthly Archives: September 2015
Behavioral Mirroring
Unlike regular mirroring, in behavioral mirroring, you match behaviors that have symbolic meaning. They are mostly subconscious. In fact, the more subconscious they are, the better they are to mirror. After all, no one can think you’re imitating him or her if you are imitating something they don’t know they’re doing, can they? But […]
Behavior Appreciation
Improve your performance and self care by developing a positive approach to personal development. This pattern uses anchors to find the positive intention (the underlying positive outcome-seeking pattern) underlying a negative behavior. For example, if you burst into tears at times, you have better options than feeling inferior. Instead, this positive approach might help you […]
Finding Positive Intentions
Transform self sabotage into success. By discovering the positive intent behind a negative behavior or attitude, you can release tremendous energy and positive commitment. Other NLP patterns, such as The Parts Negotiation pattern as well as The Behavior Appreciation pattern, depend on this insight In his outstanding book Sleight Of Mouth: The Magic Of Conversational […]
Pacing and Matching
Pacing and matching are important to modeling and rapport-building. This pattern helps you pace their model of the world. This is a profound form of pacing. When you practice this pattern, you will sharpen your awareness of people’s subconscious communications. When you pace a person’s model of the world, you can better understand their perspective and […]
Thee & E. P. Formation Pattern
How will you know when you have achieved your desired outcome? Be very specific about this. With these indications or clues (we call them “evidence”) in mind, you will be able to monitor your progress. Develop a procedure to ensure that you will detect the evidence as well as counter-evidence. We’ll call this an “evidence […]
Failure Into Feedback
Change an attitude or belief into one that supports your excellence and success. Turn “failure” into valuable feedback and into a winning state that includes curiosity and motivation. Imagine feeling positive and motivated after the ninety-ninth failure. As with Edison and his many “failures” on the way to the light bulb, you are on your […]